Who’s having sex tonight?

It’s Valentine’s Day!

Ok. Breathe!  Now tell me, what does Valentine’s Day mean to you, really?

I can make a few guesses: it’s chocolate and kisses, gifts and sweet words, getting to finally tell someone you want them or need them. It’s sex, it’s romance. It’s all the things we never get to show for the remaining 364 days of the year.

And that worries me, you know.

Love is a good thing, and if you find love on February 14, well it’s cool. But to reserve your ability to show love only on a special day is just….bleh!

I know we get caught up in life. Life is such hard work by itself, so we do forget to pay a visit, give a hug, send a message, say I love you to people that matter. And since we are living in a fast world with fast people, fast business and fast money, it is only fair that we forgive ourselves for making a big deal of only just one day of the year!

My main concern is the result of this special day. Like anything good, it is usually abused. For some, it could be that Valentine is the day for unprotected sex, it could be the day you don’t get to hit her, or the day you stay home with the Mrs…and then after that day we go back and live the rest of the year like we always do – fight, hurt, war, kill, lie, steal, abuse!

I love Valentine. Ah! Over the years it has gathered many disciples to start a revival. But we need our discipleship to stay longer than just 24 hours.

So whatever you think Valentine means to you and the one you love, let it remain all year round. Keep the love alive.

So what’s your special day going to be like? Movies? Shopping? Or you just going to relax at home and watch a movie in each other’s arms?

I think the best way is to get to know each other. Don’t get distracted by activities. Look into your eyes and sincerely confess how you feel, what hurts you, what makes you happy, and all that. Get to understand the one you love and vice versa.

And if you don’t have that special someone, reach out to someone in your extended family, a friend, or the less privileged.

And the sex, yes the sex. Use a condom if you have to get down to it!

Happy Valentine!

-          Adaora