Caring Dude, Rich Dude, Who'll Burst your Speakers. Lol!

My people!

Good to have you at the Café this morning. Tea is ready and hot, just as hot as the gist we’ll be sharing in a minute.

I started off the week with the “Husband for Sale” test. I got your rib-cracking responses and it just makes me realise how very different we all are in the things we want out of life, which is good cos therein lies the spice needed to make this world as exciting, crazy and fun as possible.

I want us to take a look at that list again and then I’m ready to give my verdict on each one of them.

So here goes…

1.       Ugly and Caring

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder *coughs*. Yes! As long as you like who he is and is blind to this ugliness the world sees, it’s fine. In this era, a Caring man is an asset. So I wouldn’t rule this out completely. Go for him!

2.       Handsome but Rude

We see them everywhere, don’t we? The brother who believes he’s so hot he can get any chick we wants, and because of this he has an ego the size of a pumpkin. I think any girl who winds up with this lot is in big trouble. Run! He is no good for you. Except you have your mission clear and his total ill-manners will not hinder you.

3.       Handsome, Caring but Unfaithful

Ah! Don’t we just hate an unfaithful partner? And I think it is just irritating for a man to be caring and still go behind your back to stab you. That is exactly what happens when he tells you he loves you, buys you gifts etc and still shares those same special words and feeling with the next girl. Uuugh! WRONG! Stay away from him – far away!

4.       Rich but Ugly and Short

Hmmm! I don’t think this is too bad. You see, we didn’t create ourselves. Is it fair to judge people based on how they look? I don’t think so. There’s someone for everyone, and as long as a man does all he can to make you happy and comfortable and complements you, I don’t think we should spend too much time judging the parts of him he cannot change.

5.       Handsome, Caring, Faithful, but Broke

Personally, I don’t like the word “Broke”, it’s just wrong! People should find out how to make it in life – read books, observe, get mentors, study the lives of very successful people. Do everything you can to get a life! So if a man is broke, it’s a problem because there’s a root problem there that is bigger than the issues in his pocket. And this goes for everyone – work and make money. I’m not saying we all would end up like Dangote, but at least you’ll be able to take care of your personal needs and some extra.

Quick question: how can a man be Broke and Caring at the same time? Is it the sex? Or the fact that he listens to you? What makes him caring if he cannot support you financially or support your dreams (because it takes a man with vision to help his woman grow)? Let me know your thoughts on this one.

6.       Totally broke but Religious and God-fearing

Oh boy! Wasn’t that Arowolo dude (the man who slaughtered his wife) God-fearing? His facebook page was filled with the scriptures. He married Titi in the name of the Lord. Err….let’s move on please, this particular one is just too controversial for me.

7.       Very Rich, Handsome, Caring but Impotent

Wahala dey oh! Lol! Sex is a major part in love oh. How we go do nah…lol!

I’m not sure what to say, but like one of the comments I got: “if he can get it UP then we’ll adopt” but another one said: “impotency sometimes affects the ability to even get it UP”

Aaaaah! Wahala don jam trouble be dat.

Share your thoughts on these please.

-          Adaora