I read the story of a young lady who died during the process
of trying to have another child for her husband – a man who did not regard her
in any way, not even after two children. She stuck with the marriage, believing
that it’ll get better with time, but it never did. Her in-laws turned her life
into hell and her husband fuelled it.
This is my piece today. Sadly, it hurts really deep.
It was sad to read that such a pretty woman lived such a
miserable life in marriage.
What does that tell us?
This marriage thing is not by force. You have a choice – in
fact, CHOICE is the best gift from God (after salvation)! We do not know how
much of a wonderful God we have, how much he has put at our disposal, how much
freedom we are allowed to explore – it makes NO sense to lose it all because of
another human being.
Ladies, STOP falling head over heels in love with men who do
not love you. If he stops loving you and stops treating you the way he used to –
to a point of violence and total disregard, the first thing you think about is
YOU; not the children and definitely not him. Think of YOUR safety first; make
decisions that will save you before thinking of whether the children will miss
their father if you divorce him.
Come on ladies wake up! This nonsense must stop. Marriage is
not a do-or-die affair. If it is broken and cannot be fixed, walk. Save yourself!
If you don’t you may lose your life and another woman will come in and handle
your children.
We make all these lame excuses for men; enough! This attitude
women have is born out of an inferiority complex. You do not need a man to be
complete.
Another story of a policeman that bathe his wife with petrol
is still fresh in the news. And believe it or not, the woman is still
considering going back to him!
Madness!
That is not love; it is a deep-seated insecurity that
deludes some women.This is my piece today. Sadly, it hurts really deep.
Love yourself women. Love yourself.
Selah!
- Adaora
It's so disheartening reading that woman's story I guess it's the one isaw on linda ikeji's page........ I broke down in tears
ReplyDeleteDomestic is almost turning into a Norman our Nigerian Society, the thrive and any ousting that dwells in home snow is alarming... Pls women lets quit as fast we can have our lives because in deaths the children you are considering will suffer more
ReplyDelete#TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
ReplyDelete#TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
#TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
#TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Adaora's advice is d best so far,women it is not a must 4 u to be with a man before u can be complete if he doesn't treat right take off as soon as possible cos once u die u don die be dat u can't come back oh and dat same man wil go nd get anoda person immediately,so please take caution...Ureh
ReplyDeleteYou have said it all it baffles me that nowadays ladies after seeing signs of violence and lack of love & care while dating still go ahead and marry such men believing he will change in marriage which its never the case it always becomes worse. Well as for me if you as the guy change i take a walk because my life its more precious than the man's own & my family still values me. Ladies be warned.
ReplyDeleteThanks Adaora this issue needs to be treated some more via all forms of electronic media, tv, movies, films, productions and social media I can tell you that the rate of domestic violence this days is so alarming, marriage are in wrecks from all forms of domestic violence, people need to be aware of this issues .
ReplyDeleteMay God almighty save us all
ReplyDeletethe moment violence is used as a punishment or means to settle a dispute, women should leave that relationship; becomes it neva get btter,rather it escaltes. Ladies,DO NOT try to reform the "animal" (man). Waste no time on him, rather concentrate on taking good care of urself and children (if any).
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