Monday, March 26, 2012

Life's Best Choices

I read the story of a young lady who died during the process of trying to have another child for her husband – a man who did not regard her in any way, not even after two children. She stuck with the marriage, believing that it’ll get better with time, but it never did. Her in-laws turned her life into hell and her husband fuelled it.

It was sad to read that such a pretty woman lived such a miserable life in marriage.
What does that tell us?

This marriage thing is not by force. You have a choice – in fact, CHOICE is the best gift from God (after salvation)! We do not know how much of a wonderful God we have, how much he has put at our disposal, how much freedom we are allowed to explore – it makes NO sense to lose it all because of another human being.

Ladies, STOP falling head over heels in love with men who do not love you. If he stops loving you and stops treating you the way he used to – to a point of violence and total disregard, the first thing you think about is YOU; not the children and definitely not him. Think of YOUR safety first; make decisions that will save you before thinking of whether the children will miss their father if you divorce him.

Come on ladies wake up! This nonsense must stop. Marriage is not a do-or-die affair. If it is broken and cannot be fixed, walk. Save yourself! If you don’t you may lose your life and another woman will come in and handle your children.

We make all these lame excuses for men; enough! This attitude women have is born out of an inferiority complex. You do not need a man to be complete.
Another story of a policeman that bathe his wife with petrol is still fresh in the news. And believe it or not, the woman is still considering going back to him!

Madness!
That is not love; it is a deep-seated insecurity that deludes some women.
This is my piece today. Sadly, it hurts really deep.

Love yourself women. Love yourself.

Selah!

- Adaora

8 comments:

  1. It's so disheartening reading that woman's story I guess it's the one isaw on linda ikeji's page........ I broke down in tears

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  2. Domestic is almost turning into a Norman our Nigerian Society, the thrive and any ousting that dwells in home snow is alarming... Pls women lets quit as fast we can have our lives because in deaths the children you are considering will suffer more

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  3. #TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
    #TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
    #TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
    #TEAM SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

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  4. Adaora's advice is d best so far,women it is not a must 4 u to be with a man before u can be complete if he doesn't treat right take off as soon as possible cos once u die u don die be dat u can't come back oh and dat same man wil go nd get anoda person immediately,so please take caution...Ureh

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  5. You have said it all it baffles me that nowadays ladies after seeing signs of violence and lack of love & care while dating still go ahead and marry such men believing he will change in marriage which its never the case it always becomes worse. Well as for me if you as the guy change i take a walk because my life its more precious than the man's own & my family still values me. Ladies be warned.

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  6. Thanks Adaora this issue needs to be treated some more via all forms of electronic media, tv, movies, films, productions and social media I can tell you that the rate of domestic violence this days is so alarming, marriage are in wrecks from all forms of domestic violence, people need to be aware of this issues .

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  7. May God almighty save us all

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  8. the moment violence is used as a punishment or means to settle a dispute, women should leave that relationship; becomes it neva get btter,rather it escaltes. Ladies,DO NOT try to reform the "animal" (man). Waste no time on him, rather concentrate on taking good care of urself and children (if any).

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